Cheats and Lies, Lies and Cheats

In today’s episode, I want to talk about cheats and lies, lies and cheats.

This week I listened to a radio show where the guest was an expert deception detective and was explaining how to decode lying through a person’s choice of words.  My husband was listening to the show too and he asked me if I lie or have lied.  So many thoughts came up about my morals and my character, because we learn that lying is concealment of truth.  It is an aspect of ourselves that can reside in the shadow, always present but not clearly seen or understood, sometimes repressed.  When I thought about his question more, I turned my focus inward and could 100% say yes, I lie and have lied…to myself. 

 You might relate to this self-lying if you’ve ever said, “I’ll start tomorrow” and don’t start tomorrow or say, “This is the last cheat meal ever” and end up making cheat meals last days upon days. There are many lies our brain serves up to keep us safe and not venture into perceived danger.  Add the practice of repetition and these lies become part of our beliefs and lens we view the world through. 

I’d like to offer you a suggestion that lies are actually just thoughts that are not factual.  That’s exactly what this detective was explaining by the way people use words to evade the truth.  When applied to making changes to your eating habits, your brain will kick up a dust storm of lies because it perceives change as a threat to your existence on this planet. 

Here’s where you can take back your control – become aware of these thoughts and just notice them. When does “their” voice get louder?   What is going on around you that your brain’s megaphone was turned on?  Notice the emotion they turn on and the actions or inactions you want to take in the moment.  Does it make you want to go for a third serving, do you want to throw the day away and binge, do you continue to throw shame at yourself?  With awareness, you are suspending time and watching what could play out rather than being the test subject. 

I help my clients identify the lies they have told themselves that no longer serve them. I help them release the weight of what that has done over the years. If you are ready to release yourself from this cycle, let’s discuss all of it in my complimentary coaching session.Go to “book now” or message me.

Target Brain

Let’s talk about what meal prepping and what shopping at Target have in common.

Here it is…drum roll…both can be a challenge for the brain to stay focused at without a plan.   

We can probably relate to the many Target [or insert store name here] memes about “going in” for one thing and coming out of the store with that one thing plus a whole lot of extra things.  You literally need to go in with exact change for that one thing to leave the store with that one thing.  In fact, I’m sure even if that were the case, where you have exact change for the one thing, you’d manage to buy twenty more other things with that offer of opening a store line of credit at the checkout! Temptations everywhere my friends! 

This is very much like meal prepping, journaling style.  It is similar to writing out your shopping list and ACTUALLY sticking to it.  Super easy in theory, but oh, so cleverly disguised as a mind game when you are in the moment.  You go down the aisles and then all these creative Pinterest recipes you remember from browsing at 1AM come into your mind. No wonder this happens.  Shopping while hungry is on a whole other level and needs its own post.  The brain operates so much better when it can actually “see” what it thinks by observing itself in writing. 

Staying true to what you say you will do, whether it is eating the foods you committed to eating for the day to buying the grocery items you only need takes practice.  It takes practice where you learn from the times that you eat off plan rather than look down upon yourself.  Believe me, I am learning to build self-trust in addition to self-love. There are so many opportunities to learn about yourself rather than believing stuff just happens to you.  Working with my coach has helped me create a level of curiosity about myself I did not think I could ever have when hating on myself was so normal. 

Do you remember what you ate yesterday?  Do you feel as if you are Roomba-ing the kitchen when you are not hungry or haven’t decided what to eat?  Do you feel massive amounts of guilt after eating meals?  Let’s coach on this stuff together.  Message me or go to “book now” to set up your complimentary weight release coaching call. 

Restaurant Recovery

Let’s talk about eating out at restaurants….recovery experience #2. 

Insert the old programming tape and here come my thoughts about eating out at restaurants.  The thoughts usually went one of four ways: 

1 – Only dine at steakhouses so I could eat all the protein and veggies I wanted, even if I was stuffed I knew it wouldn’t affect my weight because I was a ketone burning machine. 

2 – Go to any restaurant because this was the free pass to eating anything my brain desired.  It would always be chased with the big lie of “I’d start tomorrow” to ease the guilt.

3- Go to any restaurant and restrict myself to the foods from the “lighter choices” offerings which was no fun.

4 – Decline or pass on the invite or idea to go out to eat because I could not trust myself.  This was probably the worst one of the four because I made myself out to be the horrible person.

It is amazing how much mental chatter I would stir up about a place where they sell and serve food and drink!  Could it really be that complicated?  Should it be that complicated?  Am I the only one that thinks like this? 

I believed expending this amount of mental energy was normal until I learned that I was the owner and creator of it all.  Restaurants never made me think the way I did, it was always me, but I 100% believed that I would always have these four options. 

Coaching my mind to realize that if I can create restriction, I can also create freedom.  Now, I’ve shared what my meal prepping consists of and how I use this to create that mental freedom.  This morning, I wrote down Wallbangers Burgers and the menu items I wanted to have.  I am on day 21 of this weight release journey using my mind to support me as opposed to against me.  The measurable results are 7 pounds of release, but I cannot tell you how many tons of mental weight have been dissolved.   You too can release so much more than body weight by working with me as your coach. 

Message me or go to “book now” to schedule your complimentary coaching session.  Your journey awaits and I’d be honored to be your guide. 

Meal Prep Journaling

Let’s talk about meal prepping.

This is probably not the typical meal prepping you think of.   This is not making perfectly looking and appetizing meals portioned into equal size containers for Sunday through Saturday.  This isn’t grocery shopping online for pick-up in a few hours.  I don’t know how to calculate macros, I don’t weigh things, I don’t look at portion sizes, I don’t follow a particular “diet plan” anymore.  Sound intriguing?

My meal prep is journaling each and every morning about what I am going to put in my mouth to eat and drink.  Each evening, I review how the day went compared to my morning plan.  Simply explained, but oh, just you try it out for a week and let me know how it went for you. What mental battles come up?

I fought this style of meal prep because I did not want to restrict myself from the endless food possibilities a day could bring. What if you had a last minute invite to dinner?  I avoided writing out what I would eat because I could not bring myself to write down double stuf oreos or m&ms as planned foods but let’s be real, I was eating them anyway….and a lot of the time too!  There was so much coaching I needed to get my mind right about when it came to planning food.  But as of February 6, 2021, I cannot imagine going another day without doing this for my future self.

When I stopped listening to the lies I was telling myself about why I should not meal prep, it became easier and enjoyable. Why? Because this is such a powerful manifestation technique. I am writing into existence the foods that I know will better fuel me to the version of me I want to be at.  I still include cake and cookies, but I am in control of when they appear before me as opposed to being a victim of them in my mind and giving in out of feelings of defeat or shame.

Find a pen and piece of paper – write down what you will eat and drink today then compare this evening to what you actually did eat and drink. I am sure you will be fascinated. 

I can share with you that I have released 4.8 lbs of weight by doing this since February 6, 2021 (today is February 21st).  My success is 100% due to unscrambling my mind through coaching sessions and loving the person I am today, lonjas (love handles) and all.  I encourage you to take advantage of my complimentary coaching session available to begin a weight release process that is like no other.  Message me for more details. 

Eating during Snowpocalypse 2021

Let’s talk about eating during trying times…like snowpocalypse 2021! 

Eleven days of following my meal plan and now we arrive to feel mother nature’s wrath and wow, it packed a punch of coldness like we haven’t experienced in Texas in quite a long time.  I also allowed it to pack a punch into my weight release journey too.  Maybe you can relate to this?  Who threw out their “diet”? 

I ate off plan, hell there wasn’t a daily food plan made, because my chosen thoughts were, “I don’t want to have to think about what I eat when the power is out.  There is just too much going on I don’t want to deal. Who knows when I will get a hot meal again so I better eat well!” 

Yup, three days of that kind of thinking made time go by so fast, even in the frigid cold without power.  If you want to slow down time, try rewiring your brain to develop a new habit that pushes you to be a better version of yourself.  You will see…the minutes pass like hours. 

We were able to get hot meals at Whataburger and Pizza Hut, but the awareness of eating to a comfortable point where hunger was satisfied and I didn’t overindulge was ignored.  In retrospect, I ask myself why?  What good was this to do to myself in times of emergency?  I surely wasn’t thinking of my future self to handle any crisis with a clear mind by stuffing myself.  I reverted to eating out of not wanting to feel uncomfortable emotions.  Just like my Nilla wafer episode created out of my thoughts about work stress. 

Here’s the sauce…it doesn’t matter the situation, you are always in control of what you put in your mouth to eat. Whataburger and Pizza Hut used to be off limits places to get food from but the mental work I’ve done to remove those mental barriers proved to be so helpful this week, especially when food choices were limited. The true work this journey has is to continue to work on getting comfortable with feeling uncomfortable and believing in the moment of emotional overload that overeating does not solve any problem. In fact, it creates more problems! Unlike Alice and all those little pastries she ate to get out of her situation, the best solution is to just get to notice those energetic vibrations called emotions we create and realize they are all generated from our thoughts.